Letter to my Ex

Hey, Ex-Babe!
Remember me?

It wasn’t long ago when we were planning our future together, fantasizing about our honeymoon, naming our future kids… You promised me forever and I promised you, my eternal love! You treated me like a princess, showered love unconditionally, cared for me, stood by me, stood for me and made me feel like I was the luckiest girl alive on this planet. It was almost like I was under a spell… a beautiful spell of your enchanting words, spontaneity and steaming romance. Your words… they still echo in my mind and leave me speechless for hours. I never believed in love, you made me a believer.

Remember, how I started giving up everything you disliked… late-night study plans, 9-5 jobs, even talking to my closest friends. Remember, how my whole life started revolving around you and I started being there for you ALL THE TIME! I don’t know when you became the most important person in my life and when to make you happy became the sole reason for my existence.

Our little world was sweet but full of hurdles. I always thought our love was enough to pave our way through our struggles, but I was wrong. You failed the biggest test of our relationship… you caved when our relationship needed you to take the most dreaded step. Instead of making efforts to make things right for us, you left, without any warning…
I was shattered when all of a sudden you said goodbye and left me alone. For months I lied lifeless on my bed, staring at the ceiling fan, my eyes following its slow circular rotations and wondering what went wrong, where did I go wrong that I lost my most prized possession! Even at that time, I was blaming myself, thinking of you as faultless… perfect!

Things changed when I heard that you got into another relationship right after our breakup with someone beautiful, confident and successful. Someone you could brag about in your social circle to boost up your ego. It was like an eye-opener for me! Something struck and I decided to cut short my mourning period and move on! I said to myself “If you could do it, why the hell am I behaving like an unwed widow?” I started seeing things from a completely different angle. Babe, you never loved me! You never wanted to marry me, or stay with me for that matter! You needed a trophy to overcome your complexes, not a soul-mate and most certainly I wasn’t fitting the criteria. Have to give it to you for playing along so well all this time. I realized that the only thing we had common was our mutual love for YOU!

People used to tell me everything happens for a reason, I used to laugh at them, but now that I have a greater purpose in life, I agree with them and want to thank you for leaving me…
Thank you for making me realize that I am better off alone…

Thank you for cutting me off with my friends, you made me conscious of the fact that I still have people who care for me regardless!

Thank you for all the pain, you made me strong.

Yours,
Once the love of your life… now a perfect stranger.

18 thoughts on “Letter to my Ex

  1. OMG!!!! I love it I loved the poetry that was in there too. Weird thing is i was feeling like you in the beginning but then felt like my ex towards the end. But that just shows everyone that we all go through something similar and different. I’m also writing something of this matter and would for you to follow me and check it out one day!

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  2. This was heart wrenching Pia di, and honesty it was damn relatable.. I know how I controlled my tears while reading this. And honestly, thanks, I too was, just a moment ago, wondering about something, and call it coincidence or fate, I got my answers. Thank you so much for sharing this post. ❤️

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  3. Anybody who pressures you to give up the things you enjoy and cut ties with the people you love is a potential abuser. All of the most extreme abuses cases, even Jordan Worth who starved and stabbed and tortured her boyfriend, all start with the abuser slowly pulling the person away from their friends and activities. Jordan asked her boyfriend to give up sports and facebook, and it only escalated from there.
    Don’t ever let anyone tell you that they should be your everything. Your life can’t revolve around someone else. It’s not healthy. It’s not right. It only leads to evil and abuse.
    Someone with a good heart who loves you would want you to have a life outside of them.
    It sounds like you dodged a real bullet. It’s so good to hear you’re moving on from this.

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  4. I wrote one of those letters–very therapeutic! I thanked him for letting me go and gifting me the rest of my life, otherwise I would have been trapped and unhappy for that much longer. He also had another woman whose relationship with him would later meet the same fate sadly. And he is now onto the next lady. I wonder how long it will last, but really I don’t care… as long as it’s not me!

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